What is helping me navigate through this is a mindset of caring for the needs of myself and my D4. GAL, engage in hobbies, new friends, and so on. Do it because you enjoy them.
Go to the gym and get it better MAN shape. It's working wonders for me. The strength I am feeling is beyond the physical. It's giving me mental and emotional strength as well and is helping me deal with the lows of my sitch a little better.
I think we will both know when it's time to forgive. For me, it's definitely not now. I don't know when. Maybe next year, maybe in 2020. I really don't know. And I am not going to force it.