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Or, why not just reply to my text yesterday with a 'Yes, let's get the process started.' Confusing to say the least.

Shifting the blame. And you were pursuing. I went through this exact same thing around Sept. 15 if you want to look through my threads from back then.

All I know is, I'm not going to be pursuing an answer from her. I'm not going to bring it up anymore. I'm going to go back to my 'do nothing' mindset unless she gives me a clear indication that she wants me to sign the paperwork, which I will do. If she gives me the indication that she wants it signed, I will give her her wish. I'm not going to impede the process.

Good.

it does give me some peace of mind knowing that even if my W sounds dead set on pushing through to D, there is the possibility that down the road she might realize she screwed up.

Good, and let the peace of mind help you heal. Apparently there are a LOT of stories about the dead-set ones coming back. At least that's what I tell myself for my own peace of mind.

she is trying to give me advice on what I should do (kick her a$$ out now! You deserve better, she's a liar and a fake!, etc. etc.)

Typical. They see you hurting and they want it to end. They don't realize that it won't end even if you do everything they're saying. My parents have been pushing me to file for D for a couple months now, with the rationale that "your emotions will catch up with your actions, act soon." I hold them off by saying, yes, thanks, I know you're trying to help me. I'm still thinking about my options.

What is ironic is my W is trying to destroy my family, has caused me so much pain, suffering and sorrow but yet I still feel the need to "protect" her. I think it shows that deep down I'm a good person with good morals and core values

Or maybe check on CoDA? Hmm...