The kids are due to be with me on Christmas eve and day and NYE and day.
I already know that W is 95 percent likely to win custody of the kids at the next court date. If I show a willingness to allow her to visit on Christmas day then it might even help me a bit even if she declines (I would expect her to decline but I think she'd be tempted on the day just to show up). Next year, she will likely have the kids for christmas and I'd want to see them so hope she'd offer such an invite to me.
The only redeeming feature is that she offered 50/50 custody out of court at the last date and dropped all allegations against me - but later claimed the judge had decided that not her, and then she's put some allegations back in against me for the next date when it was agreed there wouldn't be any.
For all I know, in her head W may well blame me for her own actions. There has been no R talks in the 7 months since she has left other than a few months ago when W said she would feel uncomfortable about coming back to which I replied that I wouldn't want it to go back to how it was either. I'd said I'd been reading a book on anger and resentment and she said that perhaps she should read it too. The money she's taking to hide is her own money. She has more than me.
I've been doing some reading and it seems that WW may assume that I'm doing the same things as her - hiding money too, so I've been thinking of sending a message to say that I'm not doing anything like that.
