Now that it's pretty clear she doesn't, forgiving her isn't high on my priority list. I don't know if that's the right mindset to have right now, but I don't really care. That's how I feel and I don't think I need to be at the stage where I should forgive her for the turmoil and devastation she has caused. Destroying 2 friendships with 2 of my best friends and then now destroying my family in the path of her destructive storm doesn't scream forgiveness for me yet. Maybe someday I will, but now is not the time. I want to put all my focus and efforts on detaching, moving on and healing myself. What she has put me through seems unforgivable right now. But I know feelings are fleeting and that over time, I might decide differently.
You will never detach and drop the rope until you forgive her. Forgiveness is not for her, it's for YOU. It's letting go of all of the anger and resentment, and moving on. You don't have to tell her you forgive her, or say anything at all to her, it's just something you do in your heart. Now that does not mean you FORGET. What's that saying, "those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it." So remember, and learn. But do try to find a way to forgiveness.
