Do not try to convince her to try. The more you do this, the more determined she will be to proceed w/a divorce. Right now, nothing will please her and in her mind, you and the marriage are the problem. She can't see that the problem is within herself. She needs time and space to do this.
You are going to have to dig deeper for patience because this is a marathon, not a sprint. This crisis has been a long time coming and it's going to take as long as it takes for her to work through her issues.
If you have time, read Westo's threads. Her husband is back home and is slowly returning to normal.
Dig deeper for patience and above all else....keep the focus on you. When things look bleak, try to stay positive. For out of darkness comes light.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
