Uncertain of What I Have (Thread 2)

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“How dare you detach from me when I’m the one who wants to go!”

WW garbage. You handled it decently well. She’s trying to get you back under her control. Just keep doing what you’re doing, and stay consistent. You’re right, next time, if it’s not a question, like “Did we pay the electric bill,” then just go with, “That sounds like a lot to do! Well, gotta go do some grading.” If you can’t say “Everything’s fine,” and convince both of you that you’re sincere, then you need to extricate yourself from the conversation before it gets to that. Think Admiral Akbar in Star Wars: “It’s a trap!”

And very likely that she’ll escalate. Guilt, anger, threats...don’t buy any of it, and don’t take it to heart. She’s just trying to get you back under her spell so SHE gets to control the timeline.

My hunch, if she’s not pushing for S and not makes her nervous that you’re more detached, it means OM isn’t a good option at the moment, for whatever reason. When he, or another one, becomes a viable option again, she will take it up a notch. So just keep DBing because you’re not anyone’s plan B.