If you want to quit looking pitiful to your wife, you make her think that maybe some young attractive woman is getting your attention, that you are having fun and by gosh she was the whole reason you weren't having fun during the marriage. How many attractive ladies are you interacting with on a regular basis? My guess is zero. How many attractive men is your W interacting with? I will take a guess it in NOT zero.
Just for me, my wins today are talking with 2 lovely female colleagues today. Feels really, really nice. I know I’m still married, and at least 1 is in a relationship, but man are they nice to talk with and look at.
She's thinking about you all the time. She is wondering if these changes are for real, [/quote]She is thinking about you. What do you want her to be thinking?
I wonder if she is; what I want for her to think is “he’s moved on, and I want him back and need to do something to get him back”
Question though: Is this acting ‘as if?’ My IC mentioned that my sitch doesn’t exactly need the ‘as if’ treatment, but I’m believing that it does.
