Whirlwind of Hurt 5

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TF Ready is right, you really need to quit with the quick responses and you keep justifying it to all of us but it isn't for her it's for you, You want to hear her voice and you fantasize that she will just call you one day and say I miss you, I've screwed up and I want to get back together. Well, I got news for you Pal that's not going to happen. What I'm saying is as long as you are a viable back-up for her she will drag you along for a ride that will make you more miserable all the time, in high school, we called it the "friends zone". If you want to quit looking pitiful to your wife, you make her think that maybe some young attractive woman is getting your attention, that you are having fun and by gosh she was the whole reason you weren't having fun during the marriage., She's thinking about you all the time. She is wondering if these changes are for real, but she doesn't haven't wonder very long she just puts a little carrot out there and you start biting the second you see it. She goes home feeling confident that you will role over her the second she needs you. You're not divorced yet, put it in the divorce paperwork that this is where the kids will go to school, if she has to take out a loan to pay for it then she should. I bet grandma and grandpa will start paying for it. I know when my wife started to realize that she was using her parents way too much for her day to day living expenses she started to re-think her decision to remain in the marriage. It took about 2 months after I cut it all off and she was back. Now she didn't make nearly the money she makes now but never-the-less spenders need people like us to keep them in check and they know it.