Going back to an earlier post, I do wonder if she is dropping the rope for me, too.
Oh yes, the WAS drops the rope long before BD ever happens. First they are unhappy, then they try in whatever way they have (usually ineffective) to communicate to their spouse that they are unhappy, then when nothing changes they give up and decide they have to live with it, then they decide they can no longer tolerate it after all, then they drop the rope and plan their escape, THEN they BD. Right now, her feelings are that she is 100% done with you. She doesn't want sex, she doesn't want to hang out and talk, she doesn't want romance, she probably doesn't want any form of physical contact at all. It may even repulse her. That's why we preach time and space, it's giving her what she wants, which right now is anything but you. Later she may get over it and her feelings may return. But for now that's how she feels and you can only respond to that by backing off.
