13 years and 2 kids pt. 3.

[LH19]

I said, I didn't want to argue, and that I could understand that she would want her money if she had spent out of own pocket when she was not supposed to - however, I would like to just get an overview of said spendings.

W why did you take the money out of the joint account when we previously agreed that money was only to be spent on the kids? This is direct and to the point. Your versions says please don't yell at me when I ask you this question.

So she made list of what she had spent money on and there were some real fictional posts on that paper, but I don't want to argue, and told her that if I had come off as trying to blame her, that was not my intention, I just wanted things to be clean and right, and money was a subject that could really get people going, so I didn't want her and I to go there.

I Read: W Please please don't be mad at me even though you took money that you weren't suppose to take.

The numbers in general weren't big, so I just let it slide this time - I think she learned her lesson, and I think behind the "you are an idiot attitude", she is embarrassed that I caught her trying to take the money.

Why would you let it slide when she is broke because she is going on vacation with another man? Very beta behavior.

She then proceeded to say, that she think I should be buying food since she was embarrassed of the way she had handled that. I couldn't agree anymore, but just said we both had a responsibility for that as long as we lived together, and that I didn't blame her. I then said, I would do the groceries from here on out if that was what she thought was best financially.

Now your are doing all the grocery shopping because she feels its best financially. WTF?????????

She then wanted us to lower the budget for the kids christmas presents by more than 70%. I was baffled, but I know, it is because she can't afford them. She said "the kids are so small and they will get so many presents from extended family, that they won't care". I was like... I will, and we will stick to the budget we agreed on (its not my fault that she will rather spend money on vacation with OM than presents for her kids).

This above is good but the rest is very weak.

You are still afraid of upsetting her even when she breaks your boundaries. Until you take your b@lls back, nothing in your sitch will change.

BTW I highly doubt she learned any lessons after that exchange.