Grace...yes at some point the pretend aspect of what they have decided needs to be removed. Consequences of their decisions. And it's terribly hard during the holidays when your heart is split between what is best for you and your kids and that pull on your heart of "man just for the holidays let's be a family again". You have to guard yourself from feeling like the the bad guy in this. You are only doing the best you can with the cards you've been dealt as a result of his decisions. At the end of the day you have to come back to "he left" when you get to feeling at fault. And your kids are old enough to understand the reality of who did what.
