However, I would question what your motives where for saying no? Was it to because you don't feel it is right anymore having him in your house or was it to shove in his face the consequences of his actions? BTW - I completely understand both of those feelings. I do not like having H in my house as I feel he is intruding and I want to shove the consequences in his face. But, for me there is a third ... I still want to feel like we're a family sometimes.
I think it is a blend of both of those. Not shoving it in his face, but having him here for the entire Christmas, doing our normal family routine, like nothing is changing didn't sit well with me. As I told the kids, he is choosing to live elsewhere, so I think he should stay at his own place. I think it's time he start seeing the consequences of his decisions. I also envisioned me being very uncomfortable with him sleeping just paces away in another room. I offered he could stay in the spare bedroom the month of December because the kids would be home. He chose not to. At some point, don't we have to stop making it easy for them to choose when it's convenient for them to participate and enjoy family time? Seems like cake-eating to me. He still gets to do it, but just not sleep here.
But the sad part is it's making me feel like the bad guy and the bi***. Maybe that's me wanting to feel like we're a family again that you mentioned. *Sigh*
Anyway, took the day off work today to spend doing something fun with the kids. Amusement park. Looking forward to it!
