13 years and 2 kids pt. 3.

[Hurt213]

So I cancelled the account today, and I guess thats the only thing we had in common, and the only thing that could stir up a problem between us, since her actions could affect me (withdrawals for personal gains).

I want to be the man of action, I want to let go. I am doing my best. I want to be alpha and not beta(apparently I am having a hard time figuring that out, and would appreciate some tips).

Today there is a christmas show at our school, and ww asked if I wanted to go with the kids. I haven't answered, wanted your guys response. I know I might ask the same questions multiple times, but I might just be a slow learner (so I hope you guys don't mind). <--- My gut tells me to say no, that we don't do family times anymore. Do I tell her by text, that I won't attend, and how could the text be worded for example?

When at home, she acts real nice towards me, happy, engaging and wants to cake-eat. I want to shut it down, and just be for my self or go out, and she doesn't seem to mind or get upset / take notice of this, so I guess thats the way I keep on going.

Other than that, I am ready for a good day. I am having a hard time figuring out "Actions speak louder than words bro. Be am an of action." Is this actions from following the sandi rules, or actions showing her that I don't want anything to do with her as long as there is another man? How do I pull this off without being a complete jerk?