R678 - That anger that is coming out is good. The MLCer needs to vent to get that rage out of themselves.

However, YOU are most important! Do not forget this!!

Having that venting focused on you is taxing and damaging if you are not well into indifference. There are many strategies and methods of protecting one’s self from the MLCers assaults. No contact, going dark, limited contact, use only email, everything in writing, etc...

You must give space and time, for them and you. Too much interaction and subsequent angry outburst from her will damage you and erode away your love for her till eventually nothing is left. Boundaries, barriers, and not being bullied is to protect you and if you want to maybe someday reconcile, it is to maintain your feelings for her.

Above all else - Focus on you.

Originally Posted by R678
...through it all you ask yourself all the time if what your doing is the right choice because if it doesn’t work out then all that time you’ve used for no avail could of been put to healing yourself if you were to walk away.

R678, please listen. Focusing on yourself is how you heal. It is also about the only path to have a chance at reconciling.

Focusing on you, is the right choice. If it doesn’t work out, all that time is well invested in healing.

You need to heal. Walking away, will not make it any easier, or lead to healing any faster. I believe walking away will make it harder and healing will be less complete at best.

I understand, you are on a difficult path not of your making or choosing. It is so riddled with holes, turns, hills, bends, pain, and heartache. I truely understand what you are feeling. Stay on the path, keep moving forward, and focus on you.

You will get through this.

DnJ

Feelings are fleeting.
Be better, not bitter.
Love the person, forgive the sin.