Hurt, From one beta to another I think that while you did stand up for yourself and did more or less sort the situation out it was not Alpha at all. What is best for you and what is best for the kids? Obviously it is the expenses being taken care of surrounding the house and kids. Your W has now proven to you that she can't be trusted with that account, she has flat out told you she didn't and can't handle it. My two cents, get rid of the joint account. The two of you raising kids is basically a business arrangement now. In a business arrangement you would keep track of the monthly expenses and retain receipts and sort out 50/50 say at the end of each month.
