DB again... too late or last strike

[sandi2]

I see a lot of photo taking with people who are so addicted to their phones. It's like a lot of stuff they do.....FB, etc. Whether she is consciously or unconsciously using the photos to keep you attached.....you know how it affects you. And like you said, you really wanted to respond. Part of it is habit, and part of it is how your mind is trained. Like, if you don't show some type of positive response, it reflects on your feelings for your child. Of course, that's not true.....and therefore, you don't have to prove anything. It's a silly mind game people get sukked into. So, if she asks, just tell her you had rather her not forward photos for awhile. You don't have to explain anything.

She told me she’s been sleeping like five hours a night about a dream she had with a premi baby that we were at a party and I tried to help it.

To tell you something like that just seems cruel. I think she was looking for some reaction from you. I can't help but believe she does it to keep you emotionally vulnerable to her. She has almost crippled you, emotionally. She knows how sensitive you are, and she works on it. I know she has some problems, but I also know how women operate to get attention, sympathy, a reaction, etc.

I'm glad to see you trying to become a stronger, independent of your relationship with your W. IMHO, that's what you need to do. Sometimes in order to survive, you have to let go of the other person that's pulling both of you under. This has nothing to do with your character. So, don't have survival's remorse. Don't let her, or anyone else, try to make you feel guilty for doing what you need to do in order to have a healthy life. ((hugs))