Re: Moving past the WAW to a stronger me Pt. 5

[Davide]

If there is one thing I've learned during this time is hurt people do stupid things. And when I say that, I am referring to me not H (though he too has been hurt and done some stupid things). Think about it this way "smart socks for riding in the cold". This is a gift she put thought and time into. She was excited about giving it to you. She had expectations and the reality, for whatever reasons, did not meet those expectations. So, she was hurt and she cut you off. Then she thought better of it and sent you lots of texts temp checking. This is more about her than you. You now need to think if this is a relationship you want to invest time in because, if not, and you pursue, then she will get hurt. I know you are a good man and you will do the right thing.

What I find most strange is that she clearly put thought into the gift and was very concerned that I like them. However, I also know that she bought them on Saturday afternoon right before she came over. So, she bought them with the intention of giving them to me at the same time as she told me that we should stop going out. They were to soften the blow? haha!

I don't think she is temp checking or that she wanted me to talk her into continuing. That already happened twice. This was different. Yesterday she continued to send me texts. She explicitly told me that she really likes and respects me and wants to keep me in her life as a friend. I let her know that after going through that with my ex (obviously a different situation), that I wasn't interested in being anyone's Plan B. I have learned that it is healthier to just let things go and move on.

I'm certainly not broken up over it, but it is disappointing to have to start over again from zero. Especially being trapped with all the snow and slush this weekend (snow day today!) it would have been nice to have someone to nest and watch Netflix with! There was a connection there that I don't find very often when dating.