One of the best things that has happened is me finding this forum. Everyone that has commented on my threads has truly helped me. I’m not sure where I would be if I hadn’t found this forum. I probably would have begged my H and continued to make myself look like a fool. I probably also would have totally chased him away. This forum has been a Godsend. It’s given me the tools to navigate this uncharted terrain that is know as my marriage.
Wayward husbands are somewhat predictable. They are particularly selfish and self-centered. They actually want their WAS to beg and plead and be pathetic because it gives them a sense of power and control. And as long as their WAS does that, then they are quite happy to camp them out on the back burner as Plan B. They will lead their free-wheeling MLC life with multiple partners (often at the same time) and throw just enough crumbs to their WAS to keep their hopes up enough to stay on as Plan B and as their occasional refuge from the storm when things get too crazy. Now and then there's nothing like a warm meal and a shoulder to lay your head on as a break from all the wild partying and sex you've been having, right? UGH. Anyway wayward husbands can only be dealt with in one way- TOUGH LOVE. You can't give in to Plan B status, they will absolutely railroad you. I've seen it so many times here! You are doing great, your thread would be a great resource for others dealing with a WH/ MLCer.
Wayward husbands also have a high incidence of eventually well and truly crashing and hitting bottom and coming back begging and pleading. Usually by then the LBW has gotten her stuff together to the point that she no longer wants this pathetic mess of a husband. I've also seen that happen here many times. All I can say is keep doing what you're doing and try and be patient, because he probably will eventually come out of it and want to recon. But all his talk about it right now is just BS to keep you on as Plan B. When he really gets serious about recon you'll know it.
