1 year in, and still surviving

[marina7]

Black8,

I just caught up, with your story.

I know it seems like W cares less about kids. Oh trust
Me the stories I can tell you.

I myself ask why do MLC even run from kids.
Or treat kids also the way they treat us.

Or not sure if you have seen this yet. W
will treat one child as their golden child. That
Child can't do wrong.

I am reading alot about this and trying to get
a better understanding of it.

What I seen because I am living it.
That child W can manipulate. Child doesn't have
a back bone and doesn't speak up. Is pretty sad
Because is a form of abuse.

I have 3 kids s10 W took now I am fighting hard for him
S10 is the child that says Yes mom, ok mom, sorry mom....

And d10 and s9 are very outspoken. They will tell
You when your wrong. They don't have a problem speaking
In fact they are to honest. Is a good quality and bad quality also
But also with d10 or s9 you can't manipulate them as I'll buy you this
But do this. With s10 W does.

S10 has never kept secrets from me. Now he does, he is only
A child so when he talks things slip out. I just listen I don't correct
Him or nothing. Why because he is being taught to lie and keep
Things away from me. What I do is always remind s10 I am here
And even when things are not right this mommy going be here.

So your W treats oldest wrong because oldest understands more
And oldest will ask your W questions. And MLCers don't like to be ask
Questions. Mlcers like to feel powered. If W knew she could manipulate your
Oldest trust me she would

As I stated MLCers have lots of qualities of narcissist... yes I said that
So be very careful I read that you don't want Ex wife to know about what's
Going on with current wife.

Don't be surprise W has contacted Ex.
My opinion is to speak to Ex before W does and they both turn on you.
Be honest with Ex.

It also happened to me W contacted family that I don't even speak to
To tell her side and become the Victim. I have a good really with step mom
And W was planting her seed to step mom but my mom didn't fall for that.
My step mom has known me for 38yrs and help me through alot as a teenager and in my twenties
I never lied to mom. So my mom knew before I knew that W was looking for an
Excuse to leave.

I am not trying to scare you. But when MLCers are going
Through this they don't care who in front of them they will
Run you over like trash.

This is the part I am still figuring out. Some MLCers snap
Out of it some wish you die or even hurt you.

So again if you have custody of 2 oldest make sure you
Also get legal advice about ex wife.

Best of luck... and remember

One day at a time