Saturday came, I did some things around the house, and then at 16.30 I took off, WW told me, that I looked really good (why does she always comment on my looks?)
Cake-eating/ placating.
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So I woke up on her couch this morning at 7.00, and I was like (and I don't know if this is normal?), I had an incredible urge to go home.
So you spent the night at a female friend's house? Sounds inappropriate to me for someone trying to work on their M. I'm sure you've seen the many posts we've made suggesting to people that they be the lighthouse to their spouse, and that they always always ALWAYS take the high road while their WAS is mired in the mud of the low road. Do you feel you are doing that?
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I felt like I had spent too much money on nonsense (alcohol and stuff) that I could have spent on activities with the kids. I also felt like, (and of course I had fun last night), but I felt like I had wasted money on nothing, that I should not had gone, that I should focus on going the gym, being there for my kids, and not go out, get wasted and act like a teenager.
Then put this in the front of your mind, and if you're tempted again then remember this incident and how it made you feel.
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Then I went to take a shower. Unpacked my back and her phone was on the counter. I couldn't resist (yep not detached), So I glanced at the screen, and behold, there was 3 snapchats from OM just 3 minutes old. I know my course is another life without her, but it is damn hard. How can a person sit down in a couch with a family she has broken, and then know, that the OM is texting her, most likely making plans and what not while she sits there and compliments me? Wow....
They can do it because they are in a fog where wrong is right and right is wrong. She thinks her actions are appropriate and justified. Eventually she will probably come out of the fog and realize what a fool she's been, but it'll take a long time for her ti figure that out. All you can do is give her time and space in the meantime.
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I am going to go out again, but I think I am going to quit drinking alcohol for now, because my emotions coupled with alcohol is a bad cocktail.
Personally I've never viewed going to bars as GAL, or at least not beneficial GAL. There are thousands of good, strong, healthy GAL activities you can participate in that will make you a better person. Here are some suggestions reposted by Cadet:
