Milestones of Moving On (?)

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The other reasoning was that OUR partner may actually be on the same "level" as the AP, as a person, and we just never realized it because our love is blind.

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(which is another perspective I REALLY appreciated when reading about affair downs... that for APs, the married partner they are cheating with is an "easy" target because as compared to other single people, they are only competing with ONE other person - the current W or H - which is a testament to their own self esteem and, obviously, integrity).

I was just thinking about the “affair down” concept before you wrote this, and particularly in the context of OM having his own W. I mean, if my W affaired down to him, then by the same logic, he affaired down to my W. Which means that I have to resolve that cognitive dissonance with one of two options:
1. my W isn’t so great (love is blind), or
2. OM’s W must be impressive, if my W is “down” relative to her (I mean, she did have the balls to email my W when she found out, so she’s not a complete chump, at least)

But enough of that. Do you know why we are the ones who aren’t in an affair? Because nobody can “affair down” to us. We are already awesome.