I think that they should be included in your moving experience. I think it's a nice idea to allow them to come along and help you pick out new furniture. They will feel wanted and loved in doing so...after all, they will be staying w/you some of the time too and it will be their home as well.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
