Sometimes its therapeutic to think about her consequences, but that's her problem, not mine. I'm sure there will be another round of emotional pain when I get there.
There will be more pain, JB. I hate to say that, but I am speaking from experience. I don't know when or if it will go away. Just go through it and continue to DB. I'm in month 11 post BD and nearly 4 months of DBing. In that time I have cried a lot, raged plenty, had my good days, and got a lot of tough love from these folks.
Originally Posted by JB42
I'm trying to stay mindful and present in the moment. I can't stop her from doing whatever she wants with anyone she wants. I've expressed my opinion, and just like the talk about saving the marriage, it's only going to happen once.
You can't. She will have to stop it on her own and feel the brunt of the consequences resulting from her choices. Just keep working on you. And do your best at controlling your emotions in front of W or her friends/family. It's a process.
