They are b.s.ing the H when they say this stuff. TwoFeet basically told his W what she wanted to hear, and he should not believe a word that she told him. Look, it's one thing for the WW to tell her H she wants him to date and be happy. But it's quite another thing when she actually experiences losing him. When does she actually lose him? Usually, for her, it's when another woman takes her place in his life. Until then, the WW selfishly wants to be his one true love that he never got over. She doesn't want another woman replacing her in his life. (But it's okay for her to replace him.) She still feels that she has some control over him. Sometimes she even causes trouble when he's married again, b/c she still tries to keep him attached to her. It is her selfishness, jealousy and control/manipulation at play.....not love.
So, believe none of what she says.
I clearly remember the conversation WW brought up to me two months before BD, and how she kept trying me to "have my own life" three months after. It was very difficult for me to see my sitch as anything else but a WW having an affair while cake-eating. This sounds like the very epitome of a WW.
And what Sandi says gives me all the more reason to be vindictive to her and have her feel even more pain and anguish in the coming weeks and months. I am not saying it's the right thing to feel, far from it, but it does make me furious at the blatant lack of disrespect coming from her. Like I really am starting to hate her.
I also know that saying what I said means I need to detach and GAL more. And continue to seek counseling for these feelings. But holy crap...I have never felt this kind of anger ever.
