She doesn't want you, but she doesn't want you finding interest in someone else. She doesn't want you happy with some OW. She wants to replace you with OM, but she doesn't want you replacing her.
I know you’ve probably talked about this before but it still baffles me. Especially because of Twofeet’s recent convo with his W, which sounds very similar to a convo I had with my W (and yes, both of us were breaking DB protocol, unfortunately). We both got a response like, “Yes, it’s fine for you to date other people, I want you to be happy.” So are they lying/manipulating when they say that? Very curious to learn more about this if you have time.
They are b.s.ing the H when they say this stuff. TwoFeet basically told his W what she wanted to hear, and he should not believe a word that she told him. Look, it's one thing for the WW to tell her H she wants him to date and be happy. But it's quite another thing when she actually experiences losing him. When does she actually lose him? Usually, for her, it's when another woman takes her place in his life. Until then, the WW selfishly wants to be his one true love that he never got over. She doesn't want another woman replacing her in his life. (But it's okay for her to replace him.) She still feels that she has some control over him. Sometimes she even causes trouble when he's married again, b/c she still tries to keep him attached to her. It is her selfishness, jealousy and control/manipulation at play.....not love.
So, believe none of what she says.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
