Quick question I've been looking for a better part of an hour on sandi's response to an "Everything ok?" request from WW. I know that it's a trap question, but I want to know why. I saw her post a response, but do not know what thread it is in. I've looked through the search engines with no luck.
Can someone assist? Please? smile
Edit: Found it! But I would like more insight please. I get hit with that question once every three weeks or so and I always response with "Nothing. Everything is great!". Also, I know that it never ends well with I answer...truthfully. I practically hand my balls to her on a silver platter.
It is a "hook" question she uses to pull you into texting with her. Yes, she is temp checking, but it goes further, b/c she wants to know what you are doing. What are you up to? She wants that control over your life. She's going to be nosy! If you are out, she is especially curious and wants to know where, when, what and with whom. So, she starts playing like she's concerned about you? No way! She wants to keep you emotionally engaged/attached.
She doesn't want to be your W, but she wants you to stay available and engaging with her. She doesn't want you, but she doesn't want you finding interest in someone else. She doesn't want you happy with some OW. She wants to replace you with OM, but she doesn't want you replacing her. So, this is her way of trying to stay on top of what you are doing when you are out and about, or if you don't come home within the time frame she expects.
How should you respond? Just say, "fine", and then do not respond to further questioning.
Learn to use one word text responses (or just as few as absolutely necessary). She will try to keep you responding back and forth, but just don't engage...….especially if you are out GAL. Remember, she is not your friend! She has an ulterior motive for texting and asking if everything is okay...….and it's not b/c she is concerned about you!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
