Grace - he seemed to have ignored the actual request in your original text. They only hear, read and take in what they want.
Good call on not bringing up the Viagra thing. He will only deny it or lie or use some complicated logic which somehow makes it all your fault. Net result is it will make you feel worse. There is an emptiness inside them that they need to fill. They know on some level that they created that emptiness so rather than face it and become comfortable with it, they are urged to fill it.
I think I mentioned on my thread that I still love my H, but I would not take him back until he has worked through his [censored]. In order to work through his damage he has to absorb himself in it. Let your H do the same.
Have fun with your kids. You are truly being the lighthouse for them. Big respect to you.
