No need to beat you up on the "I will always be there for you" comment because you recognized it was bad.
You keep saying you want to hit her with reality but you can't do that with words it has to be actions. You guys have way too many conversations that don't involve the kids. My ex has been out of the house for 5 months. You know how many convos we had that didn't involve kids. Zero.
You are still so early in the process. You have had the fastest story I think I have seen on this board in 4 years. Which I think is a good thing by the way because a lot of damage gets done in in house separation.
TF I have been telling you for awhile the only thing you're guilty of is falling in love too young. Could you have been a better husband? Absolutely we all could have but you did the best you could with the knowledge that you had. I went on a date with a girl Tuesday who divorced from her high school sweetheart. It's been 5 years and she's still single. It's tough for women in the dating world.
When you say OP are you talking about one in general or the suspected OM?
It will get better and you will get stronger it takes time.
