Advice for newcomer pre- bomb drop.

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not one that I feel like I can dump that on. I had become co-dependent and have friends, but they are mostly our friends and I don't want to mix that up right now. I had several close friends over the years, but have let myself get sucked in to where my world revolved around her.

That's the one I still need to work on.. I'm getting out and doing things, either with my kids or by myself, but haven't really put myself out there in a way to get close to anyone. I have tons of people in town that I'm friendly with, it's just the one's i'd consider close enough to disclose my sitch to are all "our" friends.

Yes, understandable. We are still IHS, so I've only disclosed our situation to two of my close friends I met in college before I met my W and was married. They don't live close by either. No one in our town and "our" group of friends knows anything about our situation to my knowledge, so I'd be in the same boat as you on what I suggested.