Those are good, R2C. I've been working on boundaries, though I think lying isn't an issue at the moment. We just don't talk about the OM or the MR at this point. When she gets too heated in our other conversations, I just calmly end the conversation, stating that it's not productive to talk when emotions are this high.
The breaking news right now is she is closing on a house. She used her portion of the joint assets to make the down payment, but we haven't even officially filed for D, nor do we have a D agreement. I'm not going to get into the legal aspects of it, but it really put a damper on the finances (which we agreed to split 1 Jan) as well as it's a huge emotional blow to me. I try to be cheerful around her, but I find myself being more and more cold and less and less considerate of her situation. I'm still grinding on self-improvement. Read a ton of books so far and adding more to the hopper - I've almost replaced music entirely with podcasts on bettering myself. I'm getting out more and trying to spend quality time with the boys. Sometimes it's hard because I have a lot of logistics to work out, like selling the home and shopping for a new one. Pretty resentful of the situation she put us in, but I'm trying to let go and just handle my business.
