Anyway, we walked around the mall and enjoyed each other's company. W seems like Quality Time is her Love Language. I have read the book, it was after BD#1 and she said she did too. When she took the quiz she couldn't answer the questions. I helped her. It was kind of a mess because I brought up that she couldn't answer the questions in MC. That was 5 years ago.
My H is much the same way when it comes to answering questions like that. In fact, I can't get him to participate in any type of "quiz". I think that's one reason he would not agree to attend MC, b/c he says he doesn't know how to talk about his feelings, etc. It was always very frustrating to me, b/c I would end up doing all the talking, and he would sit there and make no response whatsoever. If I said nothing.....then it was complete silence.
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I also want to point out, for the benefit of all here, that although most of us don't GAL enough and Detach, more of the same isn't always the answer. Also, we all don't have NGS.
You are correct, every man on the board does not have NGS. Based on my observations the past 11 1/2 years on the board (to date) and cases IRL, when there is a wayward W, the chances of her having a H with NGS is extremely high. On the other hand, where there is a WAW, the chances her H has NGS is much lower. I don't think it is necessarily 100% either way. I do believe men with NGS need to become educated about it, for their sake and the sake of their future relationships...….and just day to day interaction with people.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
