DB is so hard. I'm really struggling with processing the changes that are going on. There is so much in motion and turmoil that it's hard to keep it all straight. My W is doing all the things that I need to be doing - GAL, 180, detachment. It feels like I've already lost her, which is probably a healthy thought. I've been getting out, doing things with friends and by myself. I'm making plans with the kids, too. I'm trying to regain my masculinity by spending more time with other men and just doing the things I need and want to do. Still doing a ton of reading and research on improving myself. Is there a point where it becomes unhealthy?
It is one of the most difficult things you will do. Always do your best. It is OK to take a break. Breaks are an important part of the improvement process.
The Key is making positive improvements. A little at a time leads to big changes in the future. One step at a time.
Memorize these words:
H:"W, Stop. We both know you are lying. When you are ready to tell me the truth, I will listen."
Do not tolerate anymore disrespectful behavior. Confront it. Do not fear it.
H:"This is not working for me" H:"I will not participate in your deception"
There is a whole bunch more where that comes from. Do you want more?
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
