DB again... too late or last strike

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She's a good mom. She never drinks with D4. She can not handle alcohol at all shes very small and I Dont think she eats enough. She has issues for sure but obviously so do I. And me rescuing has enabled her. Drunk driving she just showed up at my house at 3am. She went back to the scene the next day and dealt with police. I guess youre right I could of reported her. She needs to deal with the consequences of her actions thats for sure.

Im still trying to DB because I do want to be together. Although Im starting to feel the pros may not outweigh the cons. Looks and physical attraction are only 1 small part of many others. It will only work if both people want to work on themselves hard, heal and really work on the relationship. Im done working on us or her which is just pressure and pursuit from her perspective. I am accepting that we will likely divorce although I will not take any effort to make that happen.

This is 100% accurate Steve and why Im still here- You don't have to DB. Why we choose to DB is to 1) save ourselves and prepare for the future 2) because we don't want to get a divorce, and pursuit and pressure haven't worked.

I feel better when I work on myself. Even taking all the time to post here sometimes is frustrating.

If she says something about ignoring me again? I just say I see no reason to communicate besides D4?

Appreciate your time