Even thinking about the dB stuff and when to respond or not to stresses me out and agitates me. It’s hard enough parenting solo while maintaining multiple jobs as an entrepreneur.
You don't have to DB. Why we choose to DB is to 1) save ourselves and prepare for the future 2) because we don't want to get a divorce, and pursuit and pressure haven't worked.
Did, no one would blame you if you pulled the plug, filed for D, and moved on with your life. But you come here and say: "I know have NGS. I know I keep rescuing her. I know she plays me." And then you repeat the same behavior over and over again. I told another the other day that they were too advance in their sitch to be making the mistakes that they were making. And Did that fits you perfect. This woman has you so wrapped around her little pinky finger that it doesn't matter what we say. It doesn't matter what actually happens. The minute she descends down from her ivory tower to condescend to give you one iota of attention, you eat it up like a dog finding a pile of meat.
You are a super nice guy. I think you mean well. I think you are so enamored of this woman that no matter what she does, the minute she throws you a bone you jump to "SHE LIKES ME! WE ARE ON OUR WAY!" And you cast aside everything you've learned, and every thing you should do, and go hole hog into pursuit and pressure.
I'd highly recommend two things:
1) Talk to a lawyer. Find out what your rights are. Oh, and make sure that you tell him that you've been paying voluntary support for months.
2) Call the number on the screen above and start regular DB coaching sessions. This forum is here for support and guidance, but you need more than that, obviously.
It is time you call in the professionals Did.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
