Advice for newcomer pre- bomb drop.

[Bern19]

I'll be honest, I don't want to hear the "goings on"... I've already lived through that in real life... So not an option I'm willing to pursue at this time. I'd just like to confirm that she is, in fact, seeing him at all. She has lied to me about where she was at. That's enough to do more that just raise some flags, but with the christmas season on us, I can't confront her to find out she's Christmas shopping or something else ridiculous like that. Trust me, she is a master truth twister. If i don't have concrete evidence to proof what I know, it's like it never happened. I'm learning she lives in some sort of bizarro world, where the truth is only the truth if you have physical proof.... Maddening...