My Story Pt 2

[Manta]

That's tough, Manta. Your story is simliar to mine in some respects. I employed the LRT months ago, and only heard from my wife once or twice and it had to do with her asking for divorce. I said I wouldn't stand in the way, and if she wanted out, it was on her. She served me a couple of weeks ago, and I am just waiting on the revised dissolution paperwork, then I will sign.

I have no proof of an affair wth my wife, and I really don't think she had one prior to BD (picked up by her parents the same day of BD, though it was through a letter and not face to face), but I'm sure she is involved with someone at the moment as she can't stand being alone.

The only thing you can do is keep working on yourself. I so wanted to have a different answer than this when people weighed in on my situation, but that's really all you can do. Christmas will be tough for you, but try to focus on yourself and your family. Don't reach out to your W. Even if months go by. She has to want to change and work on herself to restore the marriage. Honestly, we are in similar boats as our wives are so far away from us, physically speaking. It's been a blessing for me, as I don't have to see her or speak to her, which allows me to not focus on the R, even though it's ending soon.

I too am currently living with my parents (I'm 33). It's been a blessing, but now my M is coming to an end, I have some decisions to make regarding staying in the current city I moved to for my W, or moving cities to be closer to my work office (I work remote). Honestly I am kind of excited for a fresh start, and will think about purchasing a home to make my own as I am ready to move out of my parents place since there is about to be an end to this traumatic M with my W.

All the best to you,

FF

Thank you for your feedback FF. Sounds like you're going through a tough time also.

I hate "My Story". It's a miserable journey, with no remorse or anything. Other stories have some hope of R, or at least the WW is "trying".

Mine is just gone, cold and doesn't care about me or how deeply hurt i am. She has no idea the damage she's caused and is head first in love with her AP.

It's hard to take some of the advice, but I'm trusting you guys, from experience and what does and doesn't work. It seems nothing is working right now. Maybe patience and time will change things, but i feel so powerless. You only see what i type, but I'm a good man. I loved my wife, now I'm on the dump heap, with very little understanding of what was wrong.