Advice for newcomer pre- bomb drop.

[Bern19]

Sorry if that came across too aggressive... I know you guys are here to help, I just know that this is the way I need to handle the process. I've noticed that some people are often great at suggesting you run right out and "dump the whore" or "kick her to the curb". I know that's not what you were doing, but I have no desire to hurt my wife. I just want to make it clear to her that I won't tolerate her behavior any more. She is free to do whatever she likes, but not if those things cross my boundaries. Talking, seeing, screwing the OM crosses a clear boundary that I set. That comes with a consequence... either she leaves or I guess I have to. What really [censored] is even though she is the one looking outside the marriage, I can't make her leave. If she won't go, and I can't be with her because of her actions, then I guess i have to leave.... her being out of the home over christmas sounds much better than me being out of my house for christmas. Any suggestions on how to get her to leave?