Dealing with a WW trying to save marriage pt2

[SoTorn]

So you both agree to have a D then? That was your choice?

Correct. However, I still do have a faint hope of R. I just accept that D is the probability and therefore am working on myself. I am working on getting myself set up financially etc. Working on having zero conflict with WW.

I will not file. The five attorneys I spoke with said I don't have to worry about anything because who files first here doesnt matter.

I am going to make WW set up mediation or file for D. I will make her do the legwork if she wants to end it.

The attorney said this in summary.

"You are living in a hostile environment with constant emotional abuse because she keeps blaming you and continues the A. You seem to be handling this maturely and seem to be getting good advice from somewhere. Keep up the detachment, keep focusing on yourself and the kids. Remain conflict free and do not engage in fights with WW. The longer you stay in the "hostile" environment and do so in a mature manner, while focusing on the kids, will show in court, that you were mature enough to ensure that commitment to the children's well being was priority".

My two goals right now are.

Ensure that my children feel my love and care as much as possible while we are together 100% of the time.
Ensure that I am remaining healthy and happy about who I am.