Dealing with a WW trying to save marriage pt2

[SoTorn]

Just be aware where the ball is. Keep working on yourself, keep detaching. Your W has not shown any kind of withdraw from her ww state. Has she?

Keep DB. Believe nothing that they say and half of what they do still remains in place. No expectations.

GAL and be there for the kids

I will try and find my thread. Its far back now.

Honestly my WW seems very sad. I believe she is still talking to OM. I am no longer demanding answers or anything because she wouldn't come clean beyond admitting the A overall. WW kept saying "our marriage isnt over because of OM" "I have no future with OM" "this isnt about OM".

If I tried to bring it up at all she would just get extremely pissed off and upset and start blaming me. Therefore I stopped. I got my own bank account, I pay half the bills in our name and my car. I took her mom off of my mobile account. I am just focusing on myself and my kids. I havent really been paying attention to what WW does. WW mopes around the house. WW has times where she is acting happy when she is around the kids. WW can't look me in the eye.

There was a couple of days where she was acting what I call "funny" around me. When I was around she was uncoordinated, kept dropping stuff, babbling, thinking I was talking to her when I wasnt, kept reaching for the door knob on the wrong side of the door etc. I actually poked fun at her about it and she smiled a real smile. I just left it alone though.

I am hopeful that one day we can R, but I honestly don't believe it will happen. WW keeps saying she wants D. I told her to set up mediation and she has not yet. I am giving myself a few months before I do it myself. WW is definitely acting different than she was when she started PA. When WW started PA she was super happy, playing love songs on the stereo, etc. I crashed that party when I found out. I feel she is still hopeful that she can see OM. WW travels a lot for work and that is where she got involved with OM. WW keeps traveling. WW claims she isnt seeing him when she travels but of course I don't believe it.

I am really excited and proud that I am down to my goal weight. I am planning on completing my physical transformation by hiring a fitness trainer who is also a friend. My buddy used to work with me and he left to be a trainer so he is going to help me get really fit and in shape. This is the best I have felt and looked in 20 years.