Thanks B! I have felt a kinship with you since we embarked on our journeys nearly at the same time. It is really amazing when you realize that the power is in your own hands to make your life better. For so long I thought that I had forever ceded that control to my W. The realization that it depends on no one else but me was hard-earned and long-coming, but well worth the wait.

All of our spouses are different people with different issues. As true as it is that there seems to be a WAS playbook there are infinite variations even within that. I can imagine how hard it would be if my W were as cold as you describe yours. I suppose it is of little comfort, but at least she is giving you no option but to let her go. Keep focusing on yourself and becoming AMOAFWL!

Hang in there!

W 34 Me 42
Married 7 years together 8
0 kids 1 beloved dog
BD 4/6/2018
I moved out 4/7/2018
I moved back in alone 8/05/2018
I file 3/06/2019
D official 5/7/2019