13 years and 2 kids pt. 3.

[Hurt213]

Hi guys,

so I am overwhelmed by the activity and great responses to my thread. Thank you so much, I will try to answer your questions.

Neffer, you asked about WWs relationship with OM.

So basically they started the affair in june, it became PA in august when she told me she wanted to end things. Then they apparently went into a full fledged love affair, they apparently promised each other ( told from a nosy girlfriend of hers if you have followed my sitch you will know), that apparently they promised each other not to leave this, because so many things were being destroyed, so they had to commit to eachother, so they did. Well for at least 2 months. Then he ended it because he didn't reciprocate her feelings, and he didn't want what she wanted. Then a week passed, and round 2 commences. Again she is off, staying at his house for nights at a time, and then a month later, he ends it again. Apparently they are moving to fast, he doesn't want the boyfriend label, and he doesn't have the same feelings for her, as she has for him. So a week goes by, then he reaches out, and tells her that he is afraid he is "throwing away something potential great". So now, he just wants to date casual. He doesn't want her coming in the 7 days where he has his kids, and when she goes its only to sleep at this place for a night and then she comes home in the morning. So they are basically just screwing to say it as it is, and I think she is just trying to not put pressure on, so that he can change his mind about their relationship. Thats basically it.

LH,
I have been bullshitting myself, about my feelings and about detaching for sure for periods of time, but it has been therapy putting it down in writing. However, those 7 hours you mention, were hours were I was sleeping, resetting, and I can say this, I will show you all, and me, through my actions, that she is the one will come crawling, and I am the one that will be holding my head high, and will be having a good life. It began today!

I don't see the above as a major setback. I don't think she came around at all, I believe it was just testing, of course I failed, but I don't see her having changed at all unfortunately. Maybe it was a major setback, maybe not. Fact is, I am pulling myself up, and moving on from here. Hope it makes sense?

Thank you for all your input It is so helpful really