Things are going well. I have not posted in a long time. I have now been re-married for almost 6 months. We are building a new home together. We now have a blended family. There is some occasional friction between the children, but overall, things are going as well as can be expected. I love my new wife very much. We communicate openly. She is able to state her needs, and tells me when I am not meeting them. This is something I appreciate very much. I still have some occasional fears and flashbacks to my previous marriage. Once you go through the trauma of WAW, you realize that nothing is 100 percent certain. Fortunately, my wife understands my PTSD and is patient with me when I have my moments. xW is still doing her thing. In fact, I still live around the corner from her. I see her much more that I would want, but that is expect due to our children. There are still occasional annoyances, especially when it comes to finances, and I do not expect them to abate any time soon, but I am not weathering them alone anymore.
I am writing this post in the hopes that newcomers on this board see it and realize that even though you feel like you may be in the darkest time of year life, it is a period of tremendous growth, and you will rise above it if you do the work. the 18 months after I moved out seemed very hellish at the time, but I look back on them fondly when I think about how close I have become with my children. Bad experience is still experience. Do not waste it. Learn, grow, improve yourself.
Keep fighting the good fight,
RAI
"Gotta kick at the darkness 'til it bleeds daylight" - Bruce Cockburn
