I had breakfast with mine right after we went to court to finalize everything hahaha! I don’t have any ill will toward her. She was/is in a bad spot. We don’t talk much anymore but if something comes up we still check in (ie family crisis). If we had kids, I think our relationship would have been fine. I just choose to stay away now so I don’t get sucked back in... 20 yrs of that was enough!