Ok date over.......we had a pretty good make out session at the end. We did not hump in the Highlander and went our separate ways. I felt attraction when we were kissing and she is really cool and down to earth. She is tall and bigger than what I normally go for however she is fun as $hit. I asked her why she expited the date and she said after our convo last night she couldn’t wait. I really did not get the stalker vibe but I did get the she is really into me vibe. I also did not get the impression that she sleeps around but I did The I am 46 yrs old and horny vibe. Convo was good, had some moments of silence and she did text me after and said she can’t wait to see me again and asked if we were still on for Friday.
Ha....well we spoke about her 1 drink and done statement and she admitted that there have been many times on good dates where that hasn't been the case. When she ordered her second beer I made a joke of it because she was having another. As far as the std testing bs if and when it comes to that and I don't get tested I will for sure call her out on it. While I can tell she really likes me I did not get the impression she was all manic about it like h girl was. This one is much more centered and calm....I can definitely tell the difference. I need to figure out what to do on Friday night and I was thinking of having her come over to the house and bring a bottle of wine.
As for me....I think I am still processing as she is different than what I am used to be I feel really calm as well.
Keep processing if you can handle that she is different than what you are used to. You are focused on the fact she really likes you. But how much do you like her? perhaps not put yourself in a position to have sex with her until you know you like her somewhat the way she likes you.
Unless you are both horny. I don't know what the right answer here is. I guess it has more to do with what you want out of dating. Is sex more important, or connection for some real dating?
I have been at this for 11 years, longer than this lady has. Sometimes, I just needed to get some. Sometimes I wanted both, had sex too early, and it really does screw up things, even when you are two consenting adults.
My personal opinion is you should get to know her more first. I think she might have some good potential to be a dating partner. But it really is for you to decide, and no judgement either way. Just know waiting might help the outcome.
She was a great kisser.....really good and she started moaning so that was interesting. I have been on plenty of dates where I did not kiss and wasn’t feeling it so I obviously know I felt something or I wouldn’t have done it. I can say I wasn’t like oh my god rather my attraction was more of a slow burn. Usually the oh my gods don’t work out and this slow burn does feel more comfortable. But I am a analyzer by nature and don’t jump into things feet first. She also had been up since 4 am, had 3 job interviews and just landed at the airport so she was still in her business attire and not in some sexy outfit. First dates are also a little awkward at first any way. I do feel the urge to reach out to her this morning though so maybe I like her more than I realize??????
I hear ya G......maybe it is too soon and best to be more patient.
Slow burns are way better. All over eachother from the start burns out as fast as the light up.
M was not all fireworks first date. We had a very sweet kiss, no tongue, in the parking lot. A nice 3 hour date where we just got to know eachother. 2nd date had a little tongue action, in the rain in the parking lot, but not very long (it was raining) but left us both with that stupid smile. 3rd date the fire definitely built. Hot kiss leading to hot sex..... and it has only been uphill from there.
Maybe the 3rd date some wine at your place, but if you are doing 2 dates 2 days apart, go a little easy.
She just called me and and said we should do more than grab a drink so I think we r going to walk and go see Xmas lights. Funny thing is I was going to reach out to her. Then she commented on us getting steamy outside the bar and told me she had a lot of fun so my place off the table. Followed up by telling me that I was a good man...Baha’i! Just going to take it slow and enjoy the process. I do think it’s about me getting comfortable so going slow is the right thing to do. I get the impression she is looking for a R which is fine but I also wonder if that scares me a little bit as well since this would be the first post D.
Definitely a slow burn for me...I don’t feel all crazy and overwhelmed with excitement causing me to do stupid things. Meeting Friday was her idea but after that I won’t see her for a week because I have my girls all next week and she will be out of town again
