It’s ok Hurt. Just let her go. Don’t feed her monkeys anymore. Be consistent with what you said.
Ease your mind now. Get some rest. We know this is not the birthday you had in mind. We are here with you man. We feel your pain. It’s ok now. Just let her go. She doesn’t deserve you. You are much a better person than she is. You need to be a role model for your kids. So stand there and shine for your children, show them the way a father protects his children. Show them to honor a MR and stand for its values. Be the lighthouse.
Hurt - Man, that is perhaps the longest text I have ever read but it was, as far as I can tell, well worded and considered. If the text empowered you somehow, made you walk a little taller, then that's not a bad thing.
I agree with DV though. Don't expect a response. If I sent a text like that to my H, it would certainly effect him, it may even bring on some silent tears and a sleepless night, but it would not make him come back. Once the initial impact hits, he will flip it around in his head, and the text will be twisted into something that reinforce some fault he thinks I have ('she's using the children against me'' or 'she still doesn't think she had anything to do with the marriage breaking down - delusional, manipulative b***ch).
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Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hurt, we all fell off the DB horse. A lot. It is hard because we want things to go back to normal, so when the WW spouse starts acting like she used to we get our hopes up. We slip up. We get reattached. And do not think for a minute this isn't exactly what she wanted. WWs are the epitome of manipulative. "I have to keep this guy attached so I can have the family and the house, and the finances. But I still want to do whatever I want to do......"
The key is to get back up and get back on that horse. DO NOT GIVE UP. We can't change anything that has already happened, but we can learn from it and do better from that point forward.
Hang in there.....
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
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M(35) F(35) T(6) M(6) BD 10/25/2017 S 3/12/2018 LRT 4/3 D Served 4/30 D Signed (Me) 5/1 D filed with Court 5/21 D Final 7/6 Moving on with life and doing lot of GAL since 7/6 :-)
