“Bo, which of the following would drive her away faster:
- The goodnight you gave her last night where you leaned in to kiss her arm. or - Just getting up, saying goodnight, and heading off to bed.
In a healthy, normal relationship, obviously the second would be behavior that would push a W away. However, once you are dealing with a WAW....now the above is flipped on its head. And what feels counter-intuitive actually is less driving away than what you normally should do.”
Steve—you’re absolutely correct.
I’m not sure what I was thinking in doing that, but I won’t do it again anytime soon.
Back in the spring when I detached more, I thought it looked it made a difference. Apparently not.
So try again.
It’s a good thing W and the boys are out tonight—work on GAL tonight, and while it’s rough not to hold at least one (YS) in my arms until he falls asleep, it’s only one night.
