Man Hurt... you are so hard on yourself. You are only human. Your W's behaviour was so out of line!!! Honestly though...it really does show you that she is not the person you thought she was...at least not now. You just learned a lesson the hard way. Something we all seem destined to do. Pick yourself up...forgive yourself...put the focus on you and live your life as if she isn't a part of it. I know how hard that is to do but you have to do it. She's given you no choice. You WILL get through this and things will get better. Focus on detaching. It is a win-win proposition. If you do and she wants to come back at some point, you will be able to make that decision for yourself. If she detach and she doesn't want to come back, it won't matter. I think that is the hardest concept to grasp for all of us because we can't imagine not feeling this way about our spouses. I was 100% devoted to my H. Did not even think about what life would be like with someone else. I have to learn to think differently and see myself differently...as me...not as one half of a whole. I am starting to get there. You will too... one step forward at a time. (((HUGS)))
