Mon: Got home late(r) after tire appointment. Took YS when I got home. No question from W, but a couple of references about how dinner / everything else is late because Daddy come home late.
Initiated very little in terms of conversation. Goodnight, but only kids get goodnight kiss and ILY.
Today? YS gets kiss goodbye and ILY. And then IC appt. this afternoon. We’ll see.
Hey bo, sorry to hear of your sitch.
Regarding her references, do you think she was attempting to be disrespectful in any shape or form? If so, did you talk to her about it? I can understand if you didn't want to say Anything in front of the kids.
I would have said something, not sure what but it would have been in the moment, maybe with her pulled to the side, because I feel like she gets to point out something that happens to many of us, minor set backs, NGS tendency to be late. Did you validate? Did you address any disrespect? Maybe she's making these comments to put you down or saying everything else afterwards is your fault while it's okay for her to do what she is doing. Did you feel any kind of way. Only saw this comment and from what I remembered don't you have D4? Was she present?
Maybe I'm overreaching , can we validate and also talk from a point of respect? Forgot how we navigate around guilt or admission which is saying imo it's back to me , pointing back to yourself , when we want to let them know we understand how they feel about it and then maybe say hey btw, next time I'd appreciate it if you don't make those quips in front of the children.
I know there's a better way of putting it or letting her know, would like ppls input on that.
I'm paying more attention to these dynamics to hopefully learn better ways to handle them.
H 49 , W 47 T 23, M 17 S11, S5 BD: 7/18 IHS: 7/18 - 3/19 Physically Separated: 3/19-4/19 Piecing: 4/19 - Current
