Also do not dig up texts or whatever to prove her wrong. That is not going to help your case any, it’ll just make her angry and resentful. Just let go of that kind of stuff. Even in a happy R you have to let go of stuff like that, you know the old saying “would you rather be right or happily married?” You don’t get it both ways.
Pulled this from Did's sitch thread and this is prompting me to think about my approach to this as this sitch goes on. I am still angry and not ready to forgive. I want to forgive, but I cannot do it right now.
As I continue to get to a place of forgiveness, I want to be able to address this but to do so without being vindictive. And I know I am not ready now because all I want to do is rub it in her face at how much of a hypocrite she is.
What I do need to kick my butt on is recognizing her cake-eating and putting a stop to it. I would like to say I know what it is, but I keep doing those things and realize the error of my ways after the event is over.
