The bad things about books is they are interpreted different way by different people
I know there was a better quote that included a suggestion to download the Kindle version which was like $10 bucks. I do have to agree it's hard to comment on a book I've never read. Since the Kindke is down to $7.99 I purchased it. This way I can give an honest comment based in my own reading rather than other people's interpretations. Just starting chapter 3. So far I will say he writes better than he makes YouTube videos - in fact, it hardly seems like the same guy and at least so far he's less pickup artist-like than I thought. I'm sure I'll get at least a few good tips out of the book - perhaps more. We will see but no more third person hearsay - I'm reading it for myself. Will I read it 10 times? Highly unlikely but I'll get through at least once. Hope I learn something. At least I'll have a more valid opinion.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
Well G she blew up my phone again last night and we chatted for a bit and then she sent me a picture of herself this am before she went to her job interviews. I won't go into details about everything we discussed but it is obvious that she is really into me and in her text this morning she asked if it was Friday yet????
You will be proud of me as her body type is something I have normally not been attracted to. That said what really attracted me to her was her smile (it is infectious) and it looks like she is going to be ton of fuching fun. I get the impression in everyone of her pictures she is having the time of her life.
She told me last night that I am the first man she has ran across in her dating life that has 50/50 parenting schedule with 2 little girls (she has seen boy/girl, 1 boy, 1 girl but not two). She also said that most men mention the reason why they signed up for 50/50 in the first place was for reduced child support. She said I knew you were different when you did not mention anything about CS in relation to spending time or having time with your girls. She also mentioned that she ran across many guys that are really becoming first time fathers (because there wives did it all before) and while dating they are asking her for parenting advice. She told me that is really a turn off for her and she wants to be with a man that already has his $hit together and the home is stable with already set routines, etc.
Okay don't take this the wrong way. You are still doing well so far but I get the strong sense you are getting sucked way in already it's almost like herpes girl all over again. It's fine to get to know her but you need to keep a handle on your all thus excitement. It seems like you are so starved for someone to like you that as soon as one does that you find attractive you throw all cation out and drop all walls. Even your coach would say not to do this. Don't let her pull you off your center (you guys may come to regret me getting this book as I'll list the things you are not following) you have to think of this just as a date. For sure look forward to it but don't get ahead of yourself. It's almost like you are doing the things he talks about in the book - within a date or two you are ready to throw your arms around her and profess your love (yes I really am reading if) on,y you've not even met yet and you are talking about her like you did herpes girl.
She too could be stage four clinger or she could go back the other way. I once had a woman do this exact thing. Not from online but we had mutual friends. She was normal or so I thought early on then all of a sudden I got the same things - pictures, calls, FaceTime, etc then just as fast she went cold again.
You should not fall for someone this fast - mor she you. Be excited, that's fine but I can tell just the way youbarevtalking you are thinking you found the one. Slow that down! Are you sure you read this book? LMAO
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
Actually I am trying to pull the reigns back and not get sucked in. We haven't even met yet although I have seen a ton of pictures but truthfully the jury is still out. Hanging out if we click sure but I definitely will not be professing any love for her any time soon and I won't be spending a ton of time with her because I simply don't have it. Assuming we mesh on Friday it wouldn't be until the next weekend before I would see her any way since I have my kids all next week.
I agree....way too soon to assume anything. She could be a stage 4 clinger, co-dependent, a pyscho or many other things.
Everyone gave me $hit for only going for a certain type which was the main premise of why a journaled what I did. also since G and J gave me advice and wanted cash money for it I thought they would be happy that she engaged after I listened to their advice
But.....honestly I do find myself pulling back/trying to hold back as I have had bad experiences before with good pre 1st date conversation and when we met in person I felt nothing.
Ok, so she seems super excited and you seem super excited she’s so into you. I do agree with don, it’s looking a little like herpes woman situation in the excitement. You haven’t met yet.
She has you very high up on a pedestal already. I understand the excitement of dating a very involved father. With a dick like my ex, the very involved father is a unicorn .
The good and bad thing I guess is that an overly interested woman is an attraction to you, not a turn off. You like it and that’s fine. But like don said, I think that causes you to throw all cation to the wind. And we know that can result in herpes and stalker women.
And see how there are more attractive parts to a woman than a tiny body and a certain hair color??? A smile, the way they carry themselves? And no offense to the extra thin chicks out there, but with a woman with some meat, you don’t have to worry you are going to break them and there is more to grab onto! More cushion for the pushin’!
I hope it all turns out good. If anything, I think you will have a fun time
So I am still new at this but could it be possible that girls who have been dating for a while get really excited and do things they normally wouldn't do when they finally run into a "good guy" after weeding through all the undesirables? I am not saying it is right, I assume they don't have the DB board to talk to about it, but could that cause some women to do weird stuff?? Just curious.
I will say that it is nice to know they are attracted but it is also scary for me as well. I don't think I have thrown all caution to the wind with this one. I do honestly feel that the jury is still out but I can tell she is getting really comfortable with me. I do have some concerns with her personality and how well we would match together but I think that will flush itself out. I can see where she could be very dominate and in her masculine due to her job and that I would need to maintain my frame so I don't become one of her employees. She does not want a week man so this could be a really good test for me as a person. I know that I will have to be very self-aware and go at my pace, vetting/observing her along the way. Talking, chatting, texting is one thing but it doesn't mean anything until you meet and start interacting face to face.
I really honestly have no idea what will happen and at minimum I hope to have fun, feel some attraction, and go from there. If not next up and it was a good experience getting out of my comfort zone.
Eww that [censored] L..........no expectations. Next!
Yeah Nef who knows.......could have been a huge temp check or it was an honest mistake. If temp check It definitely was not about her wanting to recon if anything it would be about seeing where I was at emotionally to maybe start having her BF come around.
Just speculation though on my part.
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